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When we hear the word obsession, it tends to carry a negative charge. We think of burnout, imbalance, delusion, maybe even someone a little unhinged. But in reality, obsession, when channeled with clarity and purpose, is often the hidden engine behind real breakthroughs, both personally and professionally. Its what drives people to rise above mediocrity, unlock their full capacity, and perform at levels most never reach. I learned this concept the hard waynot through theory, books, or podcasts, but through a football season that forced me to redefine what commitment really looked like. After finally achieving my dream of being drafted to a D1 football team, I suffered a serious injury in the first game I played. What resulted was an end to my football career, a personal spiral, and an addiction to opioids. When I finally hit rock bottom, I realized that if I was going to change the trajectory of my life, I would need to do so with radical commitment. So I did. But what I discovered applies far beyond football, or overcoming addiction. It applies to anyone chasing a goal that demands them to be greatmaybe even obsessive. If youre looking to break through to the next level in your career, business, or creative pursuit, heres what healthy obsessionwhen wielded with intentioncan do for you. Use Obsession as a Strategic Tool, Not a Distraction Not all effort is created equal. Grinding just for the sake of grinding is usually a fast track to frustration. The people who achieve extraordinary results arent just working harder, theyre working in alignment with a vision that lights them up from the inside out. Theyre crystal clear on their purpose, their vision, and the why behind their mission. When your purpose is clear, it gives obsession its direction. It serves as a compass. It makes the 4 a.m. alarm clock make sense even when it looks crazy to everyone else. Without vision, obsession is just burnout in disguise. So instead of obsessing over vague ideas like success or simply being the best, get clear on what youre actually building, why youre building it, and most importantly, why it matters to you. The clarity that comes from this creates endurance. This is so much more than a mindset shift. Its backed by science. A study from the University of Colorado Denver found that people with a strong sense of purpose were far more likely to stick with positive habits over time, like consistent exercise. Another study from the NIH showed that when goals are clearly defined, and individuals are given the autonomy to decide how to reach them, performance doesnt just improve; it accelerates. Purpose and clarity arent just nice to have. Theyre what gives obsession its edge. Most people imagine greatness as this massive, unbridgeable gap, like there’s some elite group born with better tools. And in the case of someone like Kobe Bryant, thats probably true. But for most of us, the gap is smaller than it looks. Its not talent, and its definitely not luck. Its repetition. Its commitment. Its committing to one more rep when everyone else has decided to pack it up. Its being willing to swim out to the deep end and being prepared to tread water for as long as it takes. Where can you stretch just 5% further than whats required? What areas can you give just a little bit more each day? Thats often where the breakthrough lives. Build Confidence Through Repetition, Not Reflection Confidence doesnt come from talking about it, journaling about it, or waiting to feel ready. It comes from leaning deep into the work, making effort itself become your evidence. Unfortunately, thats the part most people miss. They wait until they feel confident to move, but confidence isnt the entry fee; its the byproduct. Over time, Ive learned that activity creates insight, and insight sharpens your instincts. That insight or experience becomes your internal résumé. It evolves into a quiet, unshakable voice that tells you, “I’ve done the work. Ive worked my butt off. Ive earned the right to trust myself.” Confidence built this way doesnt need validation. Its the kind of grounded self-belief that comes from being obsessed with your craft. So if you’re lacking confidence right now, dont overthink it. Get so deep in the work that self-belief has no choice but to catch up. Choose Your Sacrifice: Comfort or Greatness Youll either pay with discipline, discomfort, and focused intensity, or youll pay with regret, missed moments, and a lifetime of quietly wondering what could have been if you had just gone all-in. Choosing comfort comes at the cost of momentum, and giving in to fear quietly steals opportunity. Unlocking your full potential, on the other hand, demands payment up front. It consumes your time, your energy, and your focus long before the rewards ever show up. But it gives back something comfort never will: real growth, meaningful progress, and a sense of pride you cant manufacture. Obsession gets a bad rap. But its not obsession thats dangerous. It’s a directionless obsession that becomes destructive. When you pair consistent, meaningful effort with vision, it does more than sharpen your focus or stretch your limits. You work with conviction. You become the kind of person who doesnt shrink under pressure but meets it with purpose, again and again. Thats the beauty of being too committed. It transforms. It builds. It fuels. Get obsessed with purpose, with showing up, and with believing in a vision so powerful and so personal that it demands you rise to the level of extraordinary.
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Interest in virtual private networks (VPNs) has surged in America and Europe this year. Countries on both sides of the Atlantic have recently enacted new age-verification laws designed to prevent users from accessing certain websites unless they first confirm their legal identity. Using a VPN can bypass these age checks by making a website think you are in a country that doesn’t require ID verification. However, adding a VPN to your smartphone is a good idea even if you have no desire to skirt age verification. Using a VPN on your iPhone or Android can help keep your data and online activity secure from advertisers, internet service providers (ISPs), and hackers. Heres why there is growing interest in VPNs as of late, and how to put one on your phone. Why and how to choose a VPN While some people do use VPNs to bypass age checks, there are many other reasons to use one. A VPN can keep your data safer on public networks, like those in cafés or other places around town, by encrypting it. VPNs also let you access content from foreign streamers. Additionally, a VPN is a useful tool for journalists, academics, and activists, since it gives them more anonymity online and helps them access articles and other data that might be restricted to certain geographic locations. The trick is to choose a good VPN for your phone. Unfortunately, that usually means opting for one you have to pay for. While many free options are available, its probably best to avoid them unless you completely trust the company behind the service. A VPN service can be expensive to operate, and if the company is offering it for free, it probably monetizes your data, which defeats the purpose. Before choosing to pay for a VPN, you should research several options and select the one that best suits your needs based on several factors, including cost, the number of devices included with the plan, and the transparency the company provides about what data it collects and what it does with the data. The Electronic Frontier Foundation (EFF) offers a helpful guide on selecting a reliable VPN. Popular providers include NordVPN, Surfshark, Mullvad, Proton VPN, and ExpressVPN, just to name a few. And the great thing about these major VPN providers is that they make it easy to set up and use a VPN on your iPhone or Android smartphone. New age verification laws increase VPN usage In June, France enacted age verification requirements for accessing adult websites, causing Pornhub to leave the country and one VPN provider, Proton VPN, to see a 1,000% increase in signups in just 30 minutes. Then, in July, the United Kingdom introduced a similar law requiring age verification checks for numerous types of websites, including adult websites, but also social media sites like Reddit, X, Blusky, and Discord. Again, Proton VPN said it saw signups surge1,400% this time. Search queries about VPNs have also risen fast in America since late July, Google Trends data shows, as various states in America have implemented their own age verification lawsor have upcoming ones scheduled. While the primary motivating factor behind these age check laws is to keep children safe from the negative effects of social media and adult-themed content online, which can harm them, privacy advocates like the EFF have raised concerns that the laws threaten privacy and free expression, not to mention leaving adults who verify their ages open to identity and data theft. This last point is raised because the websites that must now follow these laws and verify the identity of users who want to access their content often rely on third-party companies to do so. Users must typically upload a government-issued ID (such as a driver’s license or passport), their credit card information, or facial scans, and sometimes a combination of all three. This type of data is a treasure trove for hackers, which is why some users prefer using VPNs to access age-restricted sites. They’d rather not risk trusting these third-party companies to protect their verification documents. How to use a VPN on your iPhone While some VPN services might have slightly different signup procedures, actually installing one on your iPhone and Android is a fairly straightforward process. Heres how to set up a VPN on your iPhone. Sign up for your VPN service of choice on their website. Install the services app on your iPhone by downloading it from the iPhone App Store. Launch the app and sign in to it using the login information you used when you joined the service on the web. A pop-up should appear that says the VPN app Would Like to Add VPN Configurations. Tap the Allow button. This allows your iPhone to access the VPNs network. Now, in the VPN app, choose the location of the VPN server you want to connect to and tap the connect button. How to use a VPN on your Android If you have an Android phone, setting up a VPN is pretty similar to setting it up on an iPhone: Sign up for your VPN service of choice on their website. Install the services app on your Android by downloading it from the Google Play Store. Launch the app and sign in to it using the login information you used when you joined the service on the web. A Connection request pop-up should appear that says the VPN app wants to set up a VPN connection that allows it to monitor network traffic. Tap the OK button. This allows your Android phone to access the VPNs network. Now, in the VPN app, choose the location of the VPN server you want to connect to and tap the connect button. After following the steps outlined above, the VPN should now be up and running on your iPhone or Android. Any website you go to will now think your phone is in the country of the VPN server you chose to connect to, and your data will be more safeguarded from advertisers, hackers, and other bad actors.
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Unless youre at the very top of the food chain, you have to do a certain amount of managing upward, where you are trying to influence the decisions of the people above you in the org chart. This relationship can be particularly awkward when you have to fix a mistake or a false impression of your supervisor or someone else with a more senior role. Of course, the degree of finesse required to correct your boss (or someone else in a higher rank) depends on the individual and the company culture. In an ideal environment, everyone in an organization is receptive to feedback and correction. I make sure to tell everyone on my team that I want to hear concerns and corrections as quickly as possible, because that is the only way that I can operate effectively. If youre unsure of how well your feedback may be taken, though, there are a few things you can do. When in doubt, ask First off, dont assume that everyone in a more senior role is going to be prickly about being corrected. There are several factors that can influence peoples willingness to accept corrections from others. When someone has a growth mindset, then they often accept critical feedback more willingly than when they see criticism as undermining their sense of their own talent. In addition, the more rigidly hierarchical the organization, the harder it is for people lower in the food chain to criticize those higher up. That said, there are big individual differences on this dimension, so when youre working with a new leader for the first time, it is helpful to just ask about how they like to get information. You dont have to ask specifically about correcting them, but discussing how you can provide them with information about what you see from your vantage point in the organization can often give you insight into whether they think information should flow from the top down or whether there are opportunities to provide feedback from below. Be discreet Even when someone is highly receptive to feedback, they may not want to be corrected in front of a groupparticularly if that group also includes other influential members of the organization. Find a time to catch the person on a one-on-one discussion rather than correcting them in front of others. Ideally, you should frame your correction in terms of information that you are not sure that the person may have access to. It can be awkward to frame your discussion as if you are teaching or coaching the person youre approaching unless you are sure they are open to that. Essentially, youre creating a way for them to save face while also giving them more accurate information than they had before. Create contradictions Correcting someone is really a subtype of trying to change someones mind about something. In general, you dont really change someone elses mind, you provide them with information that helps them to change their own mind. The most powerful method for getting people to change their beliefs is to create a contradiction for them. That is, to help them to recognize that their current beliefs lead to incompatible conclusions. Not only does that get people thinking more deeply about how to resolve that contradiction, but there are a variety of psychological mechanisms (often called cognitive dissonance) that work in the background to shift the strength of peoples beliefs in ways that resolve those contradictions. Often, when you point out a contradiction, you are really making a correction in a more indirect way. You can even ask for assistance in resolving that contradiction for yourself. This method of making a correction can also be less confrontational than just coming out and telling someone that they were wrong. Enlist some help If there is someone in a higher rank in the organization who is particularly resistant to corrections, then you may want to find an ally to help you out. If you have a good relationship with someone who is a peer to the person who needs feedback, have a conversation with them and see if they can help you discuss the issue. At a minimum, they may be able to provide you with guidance about the best way to approach the conversation. In general, you probably fear confrontation more than you should. While you shouldnt seek to be antagonistic to others, earnest feedback and correction is often appreciated rather than resented. It may be uncomfortable in the moment to say something, but often the anxiety of preparing for the conversation is worse than the conversation itself.
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