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For a long time, I told myself I was choosing stability. I was working at a prestigious university, doing work that mattered, surrounded by smart people. The role had legitimacy and the paycheck came on the same day, in the same amount, every month. The path forward was clear and the structure well-defined. At that point in my liferaising very young kidsthat predictability felt not just comforting, but necessary. My work mattered, and it held up easily when I described it to others. I could justify why staying made sense. And yet, I was unhappy. {"blockType":"mv-promo-block","data":{"imageDesktopUrl":"https:\/\/images.fastcompany.com\/image\/upload\/f_webp,q_auto,c_fit\/wp-cms-2\/2025\/11\/cupofambition.png","imageMobileUrl":"https:\/\/images.fastcompany.com\/image\/upload\/f_webp,q_auto,c_fit\/wp-cms-2\/2025\/11\/cupofambition-mobile.png","eyebrow":"","headline":"\u003Cstrong\u003ESubscribe to A Cup of Ambition\u003C\/strong\u003E","dek":"A biweekly newsletter for high-achieving moms who value having a meaningful career \u003Cem\u003Eand\u003C\/em\u003E being an involved parent, by Jessica Wilen. 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I felt more like myself doing that work than I had in years. Still, I stayed in my academic role far longer than I needed to. The explanation I gaveover and over againwas the same: I like stability. I didnt want to lose a consistent monthly paycheck. I was being cautious, responsible, and thoughtful. All of that was true. And also not the whole truth. What I can see now is that stability was doing a lot of emotional labor for me. It allowed me to avoid naming something harder and more uncomfortable: I was stuck and I was playing it small. When stability and stuckness look the same This distinctionbetween choosing stability and being stuckis one I see constantly in my coaching work. And its not an easy one to make, because culturally, we tend to reward staying put. We admire endurance and praise loyalty. And the more together your life looks from the outside, the harder it can be to question whether staying is still serving you. But psychologically, stability and stuckness can feel almost identical from the inside. Both involve staying. Both involve tolerating discomfort. Both can be justified with perfectly reasonable explanations. The difference isnt in the external facts of your life. Its in your internal relationship to them. When youre choosing stability, theres usually a sense of agency underneath it. Even if the situation isnt ideal, the decision feels settled. Youre not constantly renegotiating it in your head. You know why youre there and the trade-offs feel conscious. When youre stuck, the decision never quite lands. You keep revisiting the same questions without moving forward. You tell yourself stories about why now isnt the right time, but those stories keep changing. Theres often a low-level irritabilitytoward your work, your schedule, often even yourselfthat doesnt resolve with rest or time off. For me, the clearest signal was how much mental energy I spent justifying staying. If the choice had really been aligned, I wouldnt have needed to keep convincing myself. What stability was really protecting Instead, I was always explaining myself. I had a reason for everything. It wasnt practical. It was risky. It wasnt the right moment. Eventually, I realized how much energy I was spending justifying a decision I claimed to feel good about. Stability does something important for us. It regulates anxiety. Predictable income, clear roles, and familiar routines create a sense of containment that makes the rest of life possible. They reduce the cognitive and emotional load of uncertainty. When youre already carrying a lotchildren, relationships, aging parents, health, a world that feels increasingly fragileit makes sense to protect whats steady. Trust me, I get it. So when someone says, I value stability, I tend to believe them. I value it too. But heres the part we often skip over: fear and stability are frequently entangled. And when we dont separate them, stability can quietly become a cover story for fearfear of failing, fear of being exposed, fear of discovering that were not as capable or competent as we hope we are. In my case, the paycheck wasnt just money. It was proof. Proof that I was legitimate. Proof that I hadnt made a reckless mistake. Proof that I still belonged in a system that knew how to recognize me. Letting go of that wasnt only a financial decision. It was an identity one. Thats one reason stuckness can persist for so long. It often protects more than our income. It protects our sense of self and our story about who we are. The version of us that other people understand without explanation. A few ways to tell the difference This isnt about pressuring yourself to make a big shift. Its about getting more precise. One thing I pay attention to now is the quality of my reasoning. Does it feel calm and grounded, or repetitive and defensive? Calm reasoning has space in it; defensive reasoning loops and spirals. I also get specific about what Im actually protecting. When we say were protecting stability, it helps to finish the sentence. Stability of income? Stability of identity? Stability of other peoples expectations? Vagueness tends to keep us stuck. Time language matters too. Stuckness lives in someday. Someday when things settle down. Someday when I feel more confident. Stability usually comes with a clearer horizon: For the next year, Im choosing this because And then theres the shift from abstraction to action. You dont have to blow anything up to stop being stuck, but you do have to make something concrete. Run the numbers instead of imagining them. Set a decision deadline. Increase your commitment to the thing you say you want, rather than keeping it safely on the side. Finally, I listen for where Im outsourcing authority. Am I deferring to a version of being responsible that no longer reflects my actual values or life stage? Am I living by a script I inherited rather than one I consciously chose? Redefining stability Leaving academia didnt mean I stopped valuing stability. It meant I redefined it. Stability, for me now, includes agency and alignment. It includes trusting my ability to build something rather than relying on a single institution to hold me. That version of stability isnt as nea, but its far more honest. I didnt leap blindly. I planned, I built a runway, I tolerated discomfort. And yes, there was fear. But fear turned out not to be a signal that I was doing something wrong. It was a signal that I was doing something consequential. You dont owe anyone a dramatic reinvention. But you do owe yourself honesty about whether youre groundedor just standing still. Clarity rarely comes from thinking harder. It comes from telling yourself the truth more precisely. 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Most American presidents aspire to the kind of greatness that prompts future generations to name important things in their honor.Donald Trump isn’t leaving it to future generations.As the first year of his second term wraps up, his Republican administration and allies have put his name on the U.S. Institute of Peace, the Kennedy Center performing arts venue and a new class of battleships.That’s on top of the “Trump Accounts” for tax-deferred investments, the TrumpRx government website soon to offer direct sales of prescription drugs, the “Trump Gold Card” visa that costs at least $1 million and the Trump Route for International Peace and Prosperity, a transit corridor included in a deal his administration brokered between Armenia and Azerbaijan.On Friday, he plans to attend a ceremony in Florida where local officials will dedicate a 4-mile (6-kilometer) stretch of road from the airport to his Mar-a-Lago estate in Palm Beach as President Donald J. Trump Boulevard. Another example of the unorthodoxy of Trump’s career It’s unprecedented for a sitting president to embrace tributes of that number and scale, especially those proffered by members of his administration. And while past sitting presidents have typically been honored by local officials naming schools and roads after them, it’s exceedingly rare for airports, federal buildings, warships or other government assets to be named for someone still in power.“At no previous time in history have we consistently named things after a president who was still in office,” said Jeffrey Engel, the David Gergen Director of the Center for Presidential History at Southern Methodist University in Dallas. “One might even extend that to say a president who is still alive. Those kind of memorializations are supposed to be just that memorials to the passing hero.”White House spokeswoman Liz Huston said the TrumpRx website linked to the president’s deals to lower the price of some prescription drugs, along with “overdue upgrades of national landmarks, lasting peace deals, and wealth-creation accounts for children are historic initiatives that would not have been possible without President Trump’s bold leadership.”“The Administration’s focus isn’t on smart branding, but delivering on President Trump’s goal of Making America Great Again,” Huston said.The White House pointed out that the nation’s capital was named after President George Washington and the Hoover Dam was named after President Herbert Hoover while each was serving as president.For Trump, it’s a continuation of the way he first etched his place onto the American consciousness, becoming famous as a real estate developer who affixed his name in big gold letters on luxury buildings and hotels, a casino and assorted products like neckties, wine and steaks. Trump’s for-profit branding has continued As he ran for president in 2024, the candidate rolled out Trump-branded business ventures for watches, fragrances, Bibles and sneakers including golden high tops priced at $799. After taking office again last year, Trump’s businesses launched a Trump Mobile phone company, with plans to unveil a gold-colored smartphone and a cryptocurrency memecoin named $TRUMP.That’s not to be confused with plans for a physical, government-issued Trump coin that U.S. Treasurer Brandon Beach said the U.S. Mint is planning.Trump has also reportedly told the owners of Washington’s NFL team that he would like his name on the Commanders’ new stadium. The team’s ownership group, which has the naming rights, has not commented on the idea. But a White House spokeswoman in November called the proposed name “beautiful” and said Trump made the rebuilding of the stadium possible.The addition of Trump’s name to the Kennedy Center in December so outraged independent Sen. Bernie Sanders of Vermont that he introduced legislation this week to ban the naming or renaming of any federal building or land after a sitting president a ban that would retroactively apply to the Kennedy Center and Institute of Peace.“I think he is a narcissist who likes to see his name up there. If he owns a hotel, that’s his business,” Sanders said in an interview. “But he doesn’t own federal buildings.”Sanders likened Trump’s penchant for putting his name on government buildings and more to the actions of authoritarian leaders throughout history.“If the American people want to name buildings after a president who is deceased, that’s fine. That’s what we do,” Sanders said. “But to use federal buildings to enhance your own position very much sounds like the ‘Great Leader’ mentality of North Korea, and that is not something that I think the American people want.”Although some of the naming has been suggested by others, the president has made clear he’s pleased with the tributes.Three months after the announcement of the Trump Route for International Peace and Prosperity, a name the White House says was proposed by Armenian officials, the president gushed about it at a White House dinner.“It’s such a beautiful thing, they named it after me. I really appreciate it. It’s actually a big deal,” he told a group of Central Asian leaders.Engel, the presidential historian, said the practice can send a signal to people “that the easiest way to get access and favor from the president is to play to his ego and give him something or name something after him.” Supporters say the tributes are well-deserved Some of the proposals for honoring Trump include legislation in Congress from New York Republican Rep. Claudia Tenney that would designate June 14 as “Trump’s Birthday and Flag Day,” placing the president with the likes of Martin Luther King Jr., George Washington and Jesus Christ, whose birthdays are recognized as national holidays.Florida Republican Rep. Greg Steube has introduced legislation that calls for the Washington-area rapid transit system, known as the Metro, to be renamed the “Trump Train.” North Carolina Republican Rep. Addison McDowell has introduced legislation to rename Washington Dulles International Airport as Donald J. Trump International Airport.McDowell said it makes sense to give Dulles a new name since Trump has already announced plans to revamp the airport, which currently is a tribute to former Secretary of State John Foster Dulles.The congressman said he wanted to honor Trump because he feels the president has been a champion for combating the scourge of fentanyl, a personal issue for McDowell after his brother’s overdose death. But he also cited Trump’s efforts to strike peace deals all over the world and called him “one of the most consequential presidents ever.”“I think that’s somebody that deserves to be honored, whether they’re still the president or whether they’re not,” he aid.More efforts are underway in Florida, Trump’s adopted home.Republican state lawmaker Meg Weinberger said she is working on an effort to rename Palm Beach International Airport as Donald J. Trump International Airport, a potential point of confusion with the Dulles effort.The road that the president will see christened Friday is not the first Florida asphalt to herald Trump upon his return to the White House.In the south Florida city of Hialeah, officials in December 2024 renamed a street there as President Donald J. Trump Avenue.Trump, speaking at a Miami business conference the next month, called it a “great honor” and said he loved the mayor for it.“Anybody that names a boulevard after me, I like,” he said.He added a few moments later: “A lot of people come back from Hialeah, they say, ‘They just named a road after you.’ I say, ‘That’s OK.’ It’s a beginning, right? It’s a start.” Michelle L. Price and will Weissert, Associated Press
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Taco Bell is saying new year, new offerings with the launch of its Luxe Value Menu. From Friday, January 16, the fast food chain will offer 10 items for $3 or less. Initially, only Taco Bell Rewards members can access the new menu using the Taco Bell app or by checking in through the drive thru or in-store kiosk. The Luxe Value Menu will be available to all Taco Bell customers from Thursday, January 22. However, starting 5 p.m. ET on Tuesday, January 27, Taco Bell will give 30,000 Rewards members a new menu item for just $1. The deal is first come, first served, exclusively through the app. Whats on the new Taco Bell Luxe Value Menu? The 10 menu items include five new products, alongside five that were available on the Cravings Value Menu. Below are Taco Bells new items, as described by the chain: Mini Taco Salad for $2.49: Seasoned beef, creamy Chipotle Sauce, cheddar cheese, lettuce, tomatoes, and refried beans in a crispy, golden tortilla bowl Beefy Potato Loaded Griller for $2.49: Seasoned beef, crispy potato bites, nacho cheese sauce, creamy Chipotle Sauce, and reduced-fat sour cream, wrapped up and grilled Chips & Nacho Supreme Dip for $2.49: Seasoned beef, refried beans, nacho cheese sauce, reduced-fat sour cream, pico de gallo, and a three-cheese blendserved with tortilla chips Avocado Ranch Chicken Stacker for $2.99: Grilled all-white-meat chicken, Avocado Ranch Sauce, three-cheese blend, lettuce, and tomatoesfolded and grilled Salted Caramel Churros for $1.99: Churros dusted in salted caramel sugar (available only for a limited time) The returning Taco Bell items on the Luxe Value Menu are: Cheesy Roll Up for $1.19 Spicy Potato Soft Taco for $1.29 Cheesy Bean and Rice Burrito for $1.49 3 Cheese Chicken Flatbread Melt for $2.29 Cheesy Double Beef Burrito for $2.79 The Luxe Value Menu was built on one ambition: to defy expectations of what value can be,” Luis Restrepo, North America CMO of Taco Bell, said in a statement. “Through extensive fan testing and bold innovation, we created menu items that deliver an elevated experience at an accessible price point. This isn’t just a menu refresh, it’s a new standard for value at Taco Bell and across the industry.
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